There are many reasons as to why humor attracts women. In this article I will be focusing on what I believe to be the most important reasons. The effect is has on you, the man. Most of the attraction that is built through humor has little to do with the woman and more to do with you.
By building attraction this way it allows you to be more of yourself than someone else. The “dating” persona that you have built up over your already superficial “Ego” is incongruent with your actions and the perceived ego. Humor tends to dissolve this persona back to the level of ego that we are all comfortable with.
Over time we have developed a personality through our beliefs and experiences. This is what is called the ego. This ego is an overlay unto your soul that you use to interact with each other. When you are around a woman that you are interested in or any woman that makes you nervous you tend to put on another ego on top of what you already have. Sometimes a woman may tell you to just be yourself with only knowing you for a moment. She can intuitively feel these layers over the true you and by instinct become turned off by you.
You will notice yourself doing this when you act differently with her as you do with your friends, family or another woman that you are not attracted to. Notice why then she becomes attracted to you? It is because you are being your genuine self and not trying to convince or coerce her into liking you which naturally allows attraction to build.
Humor relaxes you, makes you comfortable and dissolves the persona that likes to kiss her ass, be a jerk, coercion, nervousness, domineering, and most of all insecure.
The reason why I focused on the self is because in my experience attraction is built very easily. Most of the time the attraction is already built (to which she may never admit to it) but we tend to self-sabotage. It is mostly due to not being present in the moment and a lot of head-chatter which causes fear of rejection. To learn to become more present please read this article. |
