I was talking to an elderly man a couple months ago about some troubles I was going through and he asked me a question “How is Gold refined?”, “I don’t know?” I said with curiosity. He said with a warm smile “by fire”. I was still confused as to why he asked me such a question. Then he asked me another question, “How are people refined?” I replied sarcastically “Not by fire!” He then went on to tell me that we are refined by our challenges and difficulties we face in life.
Every time we are faced by a challenge it is the universe trying to teach us something that will ultimately help us in our future towards those goals that we have set for ourselves. Imagine if you wanted to be a great leader and the universe just gave you that position without any training or expertise. How long would you last? How would you know what to do? How many people would suffer because of your lack of understanding?
To get exactly what you want, whether it is money, love, power, or whatever it is that you ask for, you have to be able to receive it. That is why you cannot manifest what you want instantly. As you might know the three step process to getting what you want is to first declare what it is that you want. Have faith in yourself that you have what it takes to accomplish or acquire what it is that you have declared. Then you must receive it by taking inspired action. Apart of the receiving process is the readiness to receive what it is that you asked for. So, to ensure that you can receive what you want you must be trained on how to receive it.
Take notice of any part of your life right now. Choose: Relationships, Career, Money or any other thing. Now I want you to notice when you first came in contact with this in your life. If its money, you might say well I’m not rich I have never encountered it before. Well, I am sure you’ve had one dollar before, start with that. Or a relationship, it could be the first person you’ve liked. Or your first job at McDonald’s. Think of that first moment. Now notice when or if you start to enjoy it, what was happening? Now when you stopped enjoying it or when you became numb to it, what was happening? Now notice when you lost it or it went away, how did you react to it?
From beginning to end remember how every part you feel is important happened without judgment and just describe what happened to yourself. Now take notice of the second encounter and do the same process and then the third. Are you noticing a pattern in every experience?
Match up every pattern. For example if it is a relationship, you may have found that in every relationship the woman or man you have dated all had an abusive childhood and was raised by one parent and subsequently developed a neurosis and took it out on you at every turn. Did you have a mother or father like this or was your life like this? Maybe you’re just attracting a mate that has gone through the same things to make you feel at home?
Whatever interpretation you come up with do not console a friend to get their opinion because their own experience and bias will change what the meaning is. Only through your own thinking and feeling will you get the answers to make change.
This is the second step. You must now take the information and make changes. There is no point in feeling bad about what is because doing that will not make any changes rather keep you replaying the same familiar movie.
Take Action!
Using the example from above, once you have gotten to know the person and find out this about them you can either just be friends or distance yourself. This is how you live a life of awareness so you don’t repeat the same patterns that don’t help you.
Once you’ve taken corrective actions by not dating the same type of people that you normally attract, you can begin the process of healing and declaring that you will now attract what you want. You could have been attracting an abusive boyfriend because your father used to abuse you. So, unconsciously because you felt that even though your father abused you he still loved you and you still loved him. Therefore, you only attract that kind of person in your life because deep down you feel that type of person is the only type of person that will give you the only type of love you know. Notice it then rise above it and declare something new.
The Universe will keep bringing you the same lessons until you learn them. If you stepped out to get the mail and the door locked behind you and you tried to get back in but couldn’t, what would you do? Knock. Now if no one answered but you knew someone was home, what would you do next? Knock harder. And still no answer? Knock harder and start yelling for someone to come open the door before you kick it down! Well the Universe is the same way; it will teach you a lesson and if you’re not learning it, it will make it more evident. That is why I try to learn each lesson as quick as I can because things can get severe. Some people need to face death before they get the message. I prefer not to let it go that far!
Any challenge I face I always ask myself “What am I supposed to learn from this?” I can guarantee once you learn the lesson it will no longer be an issue. It might come back just one more time to make sure you learned it! … |
